Day #11: Clear is Kind
Being ADEPT | Be Empathetic

Welcome to Day 11 of the 30-Day Say It Skillfully Challenge! Yesterday, you practiced empathy by leading with curiosity, slowing down, asking questions, and seeking to understand before responding. In this stage, we add the next essential piece to being empathetic: Be Clear.

Empathy isn't only about understanding others, but also about helping others understand you. When we aren't clear—about expectations, needs, concerns, or boundaries—we often believe we're being kind or flexible. In reality, ambiguity creates confusion, misalignment, and unnecessary tension. Clear communication, delivered with care, is one of the most empathetic things you can do. 

To be clear means saying what matters simply, directly, and respectfully, so that others aren't left guessing. Clarity is not harsh. It's generous.   

Today's Challenge: Identify one situation today where something feels ambiguous, unspoken, or slightly "off" (an expectation, a decision, a next step, or a concern you've been carrying but haven't named). 
Instead of hinting, softening, or assuming others "should know," practice expressing one clear message. Try framing it in a way that's honest and considerate, such as "Here's what I need in order to move forward" or "I want to be clear about what I'm expecting here".

Keep it simple. No over-explaining, and no apologizing for being clear. Where did clarity help build trust or prevent unnecessary friction? What might change if you practiced being clear sooner, rather than later?

Empathy doesn't require guessing. When paired with clarity, empathy becomes a powerful force for connection and momentum. 

Cheering for you to make the most of this 30-day challenge—whether you're recommitting to a resolution, trying something new, or simply choosing to turn over a fresh leaf this year. One small step today can change how you show up all year long. You've got this!