Day #12: Love 'em Up
Being ADEPT | Be Empathetic

Welcome to Day 12 of the 30-Day Say It Skillfully Challenge! Over the past two days, you led with curiosity (seeking to understand) and followed with clarity (saying what matters without leaving others guessing). Today, those skills culminate in the final piece of being empathetic: Be Love.

Empathy isn't being curious without caring or being clear without kindness. Love is what keeps empathy intact when things get uncomfortable.

In skillful communication, love is not about being overly nice, emotional, or permissive. Rather, love is about choosing care, respect, and humanity, especially when conversations are difficult, time is tight, or emotions are high. Simply put, Be Love is remembering there's a human being on the other side of the exchange and letting that awareness guide how you show up.  

Today's Challenge: Think of an interaction today (present or upcoming) where you need to communicate something honest or important. Before engaging, pause and ask yourself: "How do I want this person to feel after this conversation?" 
Let that answer guide your tone, word choice, and delivery. Try one small adjustment, like acknowledging effort before offering feedback, softening your delivery in moments of friction, or ending the conversation with respect, even if an agreement isn't reached. You're not changing what you're saying; you're choosing how you say it.

What shifted when you led with love? Did the conversation land differently? Did it feel more human even if it was still hard? 

Empathy comes full circle when curiosity opens the door, clarity lights the path, and love determines how we walk it together.  

Cheering for you to make the most of this 30-day challenge—whether you're recommitting to a resolution, trying something new, or simply choosing to turn over a fresh leaf this year. One small step today can change how you show up all year long. You've got this!