Day #5: My Fair Share
Me–You–We | Diving Deeper with ME

Welcome to Day 5 of the 30-Day Say It Skillfully Challenge! Way to go if you've invested a little time these first few days. You're making meaningful progress in noticing how you show up, empathizing, aligning, and appreciating others!  

Today invites a slightly different kind of reflection, not to be hard on yourself but to be objectively curious. Because often the fastest way forward is honestly looking back at where we just might be getting in our own way. 

Skillful communication is more than what others do or how situations unfold; it's also about recognizing where and how we may be contributing to what's not working too well. That kind of introspection takes courage, and it's essential for meaningful change.

Today's Challenge: Grab a piece of paper or open your notes app and take a few quiet minutes to reflect on a particular issue or poor relationship dynamic: In what ways might I be contributing to the disconnect, i.e., how may I inadvertently be part of the problem? 

To help you get started, here's a few prompts: 

• Where do I get defensive, shut down, or avoid speaking up?

• What habits, assumptions, or reactions might be getting in my own way? 

• How might my energy, tone, or timing be affecting outcomes?

Now (and this part matters) shift from reflection to growth. Look back at what you wrote and question: What's one small change I could experiment with? What would "better" look like next time? Jot down a few concrete ideas, even if they feel imperfect. 

This work isn't about blame or self-criticism. It's about understanding yourself more fully so you can choose differently, and more skillfully, going forward. Insight creates options, and options create change.  

Cheering for you to make the most of this 30-day challenge–whether you're recommitting to a resolution, trying something new, or simply choosing to turn over a fresh leaf this year. One small step today can change how you show up all year long. You've got this!