Day #6: What's Beneath the Surface?
Me–You–We | Diving Deeper with YOU

Welcome to Day 6 of the 30-Day Say It Skillfully Challenge! Today, we focus on one of the most underrated communication skills: listening for what's really going on.  

Most of us listen to respond, solve, or defend. Skillful communicators listen differently. They listen for meaning—for what matters, what's missing, and what might be hard to say out loud—because what people say is often only part of the message.

Revisiting you at this stage helps deepen connection. When people feel truly heard, not just acknowledged, trust grows, tension eases, and conversations move forward more productively. 

Today's Challenge: In your interactions today, resist thinking about what you'll say next and focus on what's underneath the other person's words. Ask yourself: "What might they be needing right now? What concern, priority, or emotion could be driving this?" 
If it feels appropriate, reflect it back with a simple check-in like, "It sounds like this is really important to you," or "I'm hearing some frustration—am I getting that right?" 

Notice what changes when you slow down and listen at this level. Does the tone shift? Does the conversation open up? Do you feel less reactive or more connected?  

Cheering for you to make the most of this 30-day challenge—whether you're recommitting to a resolution, trying something new, or simply choosing to turn over a fresh leaf this year. One small step today can change how you show up all year long. You've got this!