Newsletter Archive

All Say It Skillfully newsletters in one spot

My newsletter features Q&A from subscribers like you who are seeking guidance for a tough situation or conversation, communication "cheatsheets" with practical tips for being a more effective communicator, and Say It Skillfully content recaps.

When Someone Talks Too Much — 09/05/2024

How to encourage a colleague to be more concise, how to show compassion, and more...

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(Inadvertently) Demoralizing Boss — 08/08/2024

How to encourage your boss to be more "hands-on", how to be encouraging (not demanding), and more...

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How Much Sharing Is Caring? — 07/12/2024

The right way to get more info, asking without seeming needy, and more...

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Giving Unsolicited Feedback — 06/06/2024

Open the door to unsolicited feedback, gaining trust by being genuine, and more...

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Communicating an Unpopular Decision — 05/02/2024

Speaking out against unfair behavior, sharing what you clearly see without seeming "bossy", and more...

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Calling Out Bullying — 04/04/2024

Speaking out against unfair behavior, sharing what you clearly see without seeming "bossy", and more...

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Colleague Won't Stand Up to our Boss! — 03/07/2024

Helping a teammate say what needs to be said, pushing someone else through discomfort, and more...

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Negativity Getting You Down? — 02/08/24

Encouraging "can-do" behavior, how to come across as a partner, and more...

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Showing Yourself Loving Kindness — 12/24/23

A meditation focused on YOU, how to give yourself credit, and more...

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Warring Parents — 11/30/23

Helping a child deal with their parent's divorce, how to "take the high road", and more...

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Take No Offense — 11/16/23

Calling out unreasonable complaining, helping others see your perspective, and more...

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Overcommitted? — 11/02/23

What to do when you've bitten off more than you can chew, being at peace, and more...

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Others Drowning You Out? — 10/09/23

Create space for yourself to speak up, sharing your intention, and more...

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Finding Your Career Path — 09/23/23

Staying positive while searching for your career, confidence in your ability to grow, and more...

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Leaving on Good Terms — 09/07/23

Staying on good terms while being honest, "serving the whole", and more...

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Untimely Opportunity — 08/11/23

Exploring a new option after committing to another, politely rescheduling "catch-up" time when overloaded, and more...

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Writing on the Wall — 07/27/23

Saving a coworker from being fired, tactfully offering advice, and more...

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Handling a Blow-Up — 06/15/23

How to approach a short-tempered boss, tips on being compassionate, and more...

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The Guilt of Saying No — 06/02/23

Gracefully moving on from past obligations, tips on how to properly "declare" something, and more...

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Team Cohesion, Remotely — 04/20/23

Building Synergy remotely, skillfully bringing up personal life, and more...

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Dealing With Rejection — 04/06/23

Dealing with your request for a raise being turned down, conveying disappointment without being sorry for yourself, and more...

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Growth Opportunity — 03/30/23

Learning how to love giving performance reviews, encouraging others to see multiple viewpoints, and more...

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Talking Burnout — 03/23/23

Speaking up about burning out, staying positive through adversity, and more...

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Pay Gap Problems — 03/16/23

Skillfully calling out a pay gap issue, gaining the confidence to speak up, and more...

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I Think I Deserve a Raise — 03/09/23

Helping your boss see your value, creating space for others to share criticism, and more...

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Unapologetically Focused — 03/02/23

Staying focused in a time crunch without guilt, holding yourself accountable, and more...

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Delegate, Please! — 02/23/23

Turning a "do-er" into a delegator, the RIGHT way to delegate, and more...

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Pushing for Positive Change — 02/16/23

Convincing an apprehensive person to make a good change, easing tension in the room, and more...

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Honest Exit Interview — 02/10/23

Telling it like it is when leaving a company, how to be transparent, and more...

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(Unsolicited) Tactful Feedback — 02/02/23

Giving feedback to someone who doesn't want to hear it, keeping your cool, and more...

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Toxic Leader? — 01/19/23

What you can do if the boss is the dark cloud, showing positive intent, and more...

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Wanting to Keep a Friend — 01/12/23

Being put on the spot by a friend's request, engendering empathy from others, and more...

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Interviewing for the “Culture” — 12/22/22

Assessing a potential new company's culture, being curious (talking less) and more...

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Saying “No” Nicely… — 11/25/22

Saying “yes” when really “no” is what you want to say, advocating for yourself and your team, and more...

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Advocating for a Positive Change — 11/17/22

Supporting a coworker change for the better, balancing the noisies and the quiets, and more…

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"Shutdown" Boss—What to Do? — 11/04/22

Helping your boss be more self-aware, being vulnerable, and more…

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Managing a "PIP" With Respect — 10/28/22

Starting a conversation to improve someone’s performance, how to be present and lead yourself first, and more...

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Employees Being Poached? — 10/21/22

Helping employees evaluate staying vs. going, embracing difference so people feel included, and more...

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Marching Orders Unclear? — 10/13/22

Gaining clarity when your boss isn't so clear, ensuring YOU are being clear, and more...

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Ever Play the Blame Game? — 09/29/22

What to say when a co-worker is being thrown under the bus, how to be empathetic, and more...

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